An Afternoon Out: Pictures and Stuff

Going to the mall today was a really good idea. MM got to run around and blow off some steam and we all got to get out of the apartment for awhile. I was super smart and packed a lunch for us so after we’d had our fill of the mall play area we headed to the food court for a (FREE!) lunch out. Otherwise I’d have been starving by the time we got home – or I’d have broken down and bought lunch at the food court. So that was pretty perfect.

they grow up so fast

BB got to play in the play area, too, for a little while which she thought was fantastic. I can only imagine how amazing that place must seem to her at her size / age. When we got home I had to stop and take some pictures of a couple of the trees outside our apartment – their blooms were simply too fantastic to ignore.

gorgeous spring blooming

These pictures don’t really do the blooms justice – I’ll have to go out later with Dan’s Nikon and take some closer shots. But I did  get these…

not quite tall enough

got it!

reveling in the beauty

Then I got really lucky and got this shot…

that would be my heart puddling near my feet right now

So many of my pictures of him lately are either so forced and staged that it just doesn’t feel like the real him… or pouty and bored that I’m taking pictures… or too close for my camera to focus properly. This shot… pure gold. Heart meltingly MM.

aloha friday: about time

I haven’t participated in an Aloha Friday in so long that it seems criminal – especially when it’s quite possibly one of the easiest internet memes ever. But for the past two months I’ve had to leave early in the morning for my son’s YMCA class and by the time I got back and relaxed and had a quiet moment to myself – it kind of seemed like the Aloha momentum had passed me by and watching tv seemed more interesting. Sorry about that.

I’m going to make this quick a’cause we’re heading to the mall in about 15 minutes to get out of the house for a bit – now that we have no Y class to go to, Fridays seem a bit empty and I’m feeling a bit stir crazy – especially because this week I had the lame awesome idea to declare a No TV Week in the life and times of MM anyway (that just means that when he’s napping or sleeping I am still watching tv myself, because unlike somebody I know, I don’t whimper cry and flail about when it’s time to turn the tv off – also I don’t wet my pants because tv is better than using the bathroom. Just saying.) and after four days of no boob tube, I’m basically running out of steam and I think if we don’t go out and do something I’m going to cop out and turn on Playhouse Disney so I don’t have to answer the question, “Mommy, what can I do NOW?” every fifteen seconds.

Anyway, I’m sure you are now like “Ask a question already!” and “How is this making it quick??” and my kids are like, “Are we leaving yet!?” so to ask a question completely unrelated to any of that:

What’s for dinner tonight?

I’m making Penne a la Betsy – one of my favorite recipes ever and the recipe which forever changed my opinion about spaghetti sauce in general (i.e. spaghetti sauce without a splash of white wine is pretty much a sin).

aloha friday @ an island life

not so wordless: new friends

well hello down there

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
– Anais Nin

“It is a sweet thing, friendship, a dear balm,
A happy and auspicious bird of calm…”
– Shelly

It’s been almost one year since we first moved to Wisconsin, first said goodbye to old friends and everything we knew about life up until then. It was really, really hard to leave such amazing friends behind, wondering if we’d ever find anyone else that we connected with that well. We had it made back in New England – the perfect couple friends – already well marinated by the test of time. It’s not an easy thing to find – even poor MM had to leave behind some fabulous little friends and I know it hasn’t been easy on him – I think we’ve both spent the better part of the last year feeling sort of … starved for friendship and a real connection to someone here.

But one year later and we are finally starting to put some roots down here and find some families that we really enjoy spending time with. This afternoon I met a friend at a playground and seeing our boys all playing together – really playing together and not just near each other – it really touched my heart and it felt like … exhaling, you know? Like maybe this can all be real now and I might actually make it here.

It doesn’t hurt that the weather was beautiful, the playground was fantastic and the kids were both terrifically well behaved. But seriously – we had a fantastic time and my friend and her kids are so sweet and I feel blessed to have found them here. I hope that years down the road I can count them on my list of old friends, too.

DVD Review: Avatar

avatar

Last week the ridiculously popular AVATAR was released on Blu-ray Disc and DVD. You know the movie that you couldn’t walk two feet without hearing about when it came out in theaters? With the oooh and the ahhh? Being the semi-impoverished parents of two young children, my husband and I weren’t lucky enough to get that 3D theater experience so I was thrilled when I got the opportunity to review the DVD.

Yesterday my copy finally came in the mail and my husband and I could not wait another night so despite it’s 2 and half hour run time, we stayed up late last night to watch it together. Totally worth the couple hours of sacrificed sleep, I have to say. My husband was just in awe of this movie – he had that giddy “I can’t believe how awesome that was!” glow that not many movies bring out in him – think Kill Bill good or Across the Universe good.

If you’ve been living in a box up until now and haven’t heard of James Cameron’s epically popular AVATAR yet, here’s a brief summary as borrowed from IMDB:

In the future, Jake, a paraplegic war veteran, is brought to another planet, Pandora, which is inhabited by the Na’vi, a humanoid race with their own language and culture. Those from Earth find themselves at odds with each other and the local culture … In exchange for the spinal surgery that will fix his legs, Jake gathers intel for the cooperating military unit spearheaded by gung-ho Colonel Quaritch, while simultaneously attempting to infiltrate the Na’vi people with the use of an “avatar” identity. While Jake begins to bond with the native tribe and quickly falls in love with the beautiful alien Neytiri, the restless Colonel moves forward with his ruthless extermination tactics, forcing the soldier to take a stand – and fight back in an epic battle for the fate of Pandora.

A lot of people are comparing AVATAR to the story of Pocahontas and I can see the similarities – a scene in the beginning with a waterfall had me singing “Just around the river bend,” to myself – but then the last scene of the movie made me think of The Lion King so I might have just been over-tired. :OP

My husband and I both agreed that despite a plot that has been vaguely done before – it was a really remarkable movie. It definitely has a very strong plot, fantastic actors and actresses and the special effects were of course stunning. The movie really drew us in and had us rooting for the survival of the Na’vi. Suffice it to say I now want my own dragon to fly and kind of want to go hiking this weekend and get in touch with mother nature a bit – never a bad thing.

All in all, I’d give this movie a solid A+ and strongly encourage anyone who hasn’t gotten around to seeing this movie to do so immediately!

Potty Training Sucks!

this bear will potty train before my four year old does

Yesterday on Facebook my friend posted a link to this article on how the risks of child abuse rise during potty training and you know it broke my heart into a million little pieces. Anything about child abuse would naturally have that effect on me but the  fact that we are going through potty training hell right now only makes it worse. My emotions regarding PT are on an all time high and I lately feel a little bit at the end of my rope.

He turned four three weeks ago and he’s still not there. I mean – he knows how to use the potty and does so every day but he still wets like 6-10 diapers a day at least. How is that normal? How can he really not hold it in time to use the potty when he’s supposedly going to the potty at least that many times also? How many times in one day does the boy need to urinate?

Sometimes I think he might have a weak bladder but then sometimes I think that he’s so preoccupied with his toys or his tv or his coloring books that even when I do get him to use the potty he might not even be going? He seems to just run into the bathroom and within seconds run back out – like he’s not even trying – if he doesn’t start peeing within 0.5 seconds he clearly doesn’t have to go in his mind. So we make him go again sometimes when it seems like he wasn’t in there long enough – sometimes three times in a row – to the point where he’s getting angry about being asked again.

We’ve tried… everything. Bribery does not work because he has the attention span of a gnat. Marshmallows only matter to him in the moment, you know? Today I told him he’s not allowed to watch tv until he learns to put all his pee in the potty – and even without that pesky boob tube (good riddance, I say) he isn’t doing any better. I told him he can’t go to kindergarten until he learns to use the potty every time but that’s such an abstract concept – I don’t think he gets that either and at this rate we might still be potty training when he goes off to college!

The last time we tried underwear it was obviously too soon because he wet all six pairs within about 2 hours. That was at least a year ago but just the memory makes me gun shy, especially when I think about all the carpeting and furniture that I’ll probably have to clean when it doesn’t pan out. About fifteen minutes ago I tried making him walk around naked but that was like playing chicken with myself – and I only lasted about 5 minutes before I couldn’t deal with the potential side effects any more.

I nag him about this so much that I’m worried I’m going to give him a complex – but I’m getting tired of throwing out just barely peed in pull ups by the dozen on like a daily basis – those suckers are expensive! My other option is cloth diapers which really make it impossible to train him because he can’t take them off himself. And of course I could buy him more underwear I suppose but underwear isn’t cheap either and last I checked he doesn’t really mind sitting in soiled or soaking wet cotton. Seriously.

The potty chair in the living room – seems good in concept except I have a crawling little darling who likes to put things in her mouth. I’ve tried setting a timer for like every 15 minutes or so but I can only stick with that for like half a day until I feel like I’m losing my mind – and even with the every 15 minute timer he still manages to wet a diaper here and there – HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?

So what I’m saying is – my son turned four 3 weeks ago and I’m at the end of my Potty Training Rope and terrified that I’m going to mess this kid up royally over pee and poop but something has to be done! And then I read awful articles about child abuse and want to cry myself a river and go back to bed.

Anybody else having potty training woes right now that wants to join me in my pity party – you are more than welcome to vent here – this is our safe space to cry over spilled pee pee and commiserate together – no judging allowed! It’s okay – you are NOT alone. Unless I am the only one, in which case – self – you are totally screwed.

And if anyone has any suggestions that don’t involve sticker charts, marshmallows, portable potties, timers, punishments, kicking, screaming  and guilt trips – I’d love to hear them.

Nightstand: April

Whats on Your Nightstand @ 5 Minutes For Books It’s hard to believe that another month has come and gone. It literally feels like just three days ago or something I was writing the Nightstand post for March but nope, the calendar agrees that it’s been a whole month.

When I left you last I was reading Never Tell Our Business To Strangers by Jennifer Mascia and Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert, I finished both and reviewed them here and here respectively.

Since finishing them I have picked up two more books but haven’t finished either yet – and actually to be honest, I guess I am reading three right now since I impatiently picked up a third book the other day. So right now I am reading:

  1. The Spellmans Strike Again by Lisa Lutz (fourth in a series that I am devouring at a rapid pace)
  2. Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat by Michelle May (diet / self help book that, like all nonfiction for me, is slow going but still fascinating)
  3. The Naked Buddha by Adrienne Howley (I’ve only just started it but I have already been prattling on about it incessantly – see example here)

I have a feeling that I won’t finish all of these and pick something else up before my next nightstand post, but if I do it will probably be…

my nightstand - cleaned up for your viewing pleasure

So what’s on your nightstand right now? Tell me about it in the comments below or write your own post and link up at 5 Minutes For Books!

i heart faces: SMILE

four blackberries can go a loooong way

My bloggy buddy Jen @ Our Daily Big Top encouraged me to enter this in the iheartfaces photo challenge this week. The theme this week is rather fitting – SMILES – little miss BB is certainly donning a big grin in this picture – blackberries are apparently pretty awesome in her book – AND the picture makes me smile, too, so that’s like bonus points, right?

Have you got the perfect picture of a terrific smile? Be sure to link up with it this week at iheartfaces!

i heart faces weekly photo challenge

Review: Cardstore.com – Personalized Business Cards, Stationary, Photo Cards and More

mommy cards from cardstore.com

You know when you are at the playground or the library and you hit it off with a new mom – like she might just be your long lost best friend and kindred spirit that you’ve been looking for since forever and her kids and your kids seem to get along, too? And as you watch your respective darlings run about together while talking about the latest romantic comedy you both loved or your favorite places to get coffee you groan with the realization that despite having eleven spare diapers, enough wet wipes to supply your local CVS and snacks doled out in appropriate portions for all your kids – you don’t have a pen and paper anywhere?

So when that awkward moment comes where you might be brave enough to say, “Hey let’s get together sometime – here’s my number!” you don’t exchange numbers and you leave the playground or library feeling disappointed and hoping that your could be new best friend manages to come to the playground or library again at the same time you do – and that you have a pen on you.

Now, I know you could have cell phones and just swap numbers that way – and you very well might see them at the playground again – but the thing is, for me, finding the courage to even suggest that they might actually have liked you enough to want your phone number is tough – and any tool you can have to make that topic as easy as possible – well, I want it.

Lately Mommy Cards are all the rage – at least I think they are. I know I’ve been wanting them for a couple years now. Think Business Cards but hopefully with cute pictures of your kids on them and of course your contact information – perfect for giving out your phone number or for all my fellow blogging mommas out there – your website address, too!

I’ve been hunting and searching for awhile now for just the right company – just the right price – just the right amount of options and I finally found that in Cardstore.com – an online retailer with personalized photo cards, holiday cards, thank you cards, birth announcements, birthday cards, wedding announcements, as well as about a gagillion different business cards or Mommy Cards to suit any style. Add your own photos and text – and they’ll print and mail your custom photo cards anywhere, with no minimum orders.

my very own Mommy Cards

Apologies for the poor attempt at removing private information from these pictures – I know it looks ugly.

I was really impressed with the cards I ordered at Cardstore.com. At their website I was able to choose a style and then further customize it with my own pictures and choice of text, fonts, colors, sizes, etc. so I could custom tailer the cards to my own preferences. The website was very easy to work with and I think the cards are just adorable.

the reverse side of my Mommy Cards

You can actually put photos and text on both sides of the card – so no matter what side of the card you pick up, there is something there to look at. I put my phone number on both sides of this card along with pictures of my kids of course. Cardstore.com generously offered me a $25 credit to use at their website for review purposes and I decided to order two different styles of cards because I had such a hard time choosing from all their options. So I also ordered a card with all text on one side and pictures on the other – and a purple background just for fun!

more of a classic business card style on this side

So you can see that the front has more of a classic business card format – but with a fun colorful twist. But when you flip it over…

it's my cute kids!

I thought this was adorable – more pictures of my cute kids and their names, too. I can’t really state enough how adorable these cards were. Each set came with 25 cards for $15 each. This quantity was perfect for my purposes – I can’t imagine I’ll go through the 50 total cards I ordered any time soon but if you are ordering these for a business and want more cards, they do offer discounted bulk rates. Each set of cards also came with a cute smaller carrying case that’s perfect to slip into your purse or pocket but still keep them separate and handy for quick access.

cute huh?

The best part is – this weekend when I ran into a fellow mommy at the train tables of our local Barnes and Noble who I’d met once before at a playgroup and had been hoping to run into again – I put these babies to good use, mustered up some bravery and gave her my card so hopefully we can get together again sooner rather than later.

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daybook: april 26th

four blackberries can go a loooong way

Today…

Outside my window: It looks nice and sunny again – yesterday was so gray and dreary and cold and rainy – it’s a serious relief to see the sun again. Here’s hoping for a week of blue skies and warm weather.

I am happy because: my husband seems to have gotten over his cold, the baby is napping, Avatar just came in the mail (finally – I was expecting it Friday) for review and most importantly – I don’t have jury duty this week! I’d all but resigned myself to the fact that it would happen but my number wasn’t called and I couldn’t be more thrilled. I was not looking forward to orchestrating the baby’s feedings through all that and I know Dan wasn’t looking forward to the prospect of working from home.

I am still reading: The Spellmans Strike Again by Lisa Lutz (squee!!!) and Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat by Michelle May – both of which I’ll be reviewing at Mommas Review when I’ve finished them.

This weekend we: did a lot of cleaning and projects around the house, bought a new hand vac finally – our old one wouldn’t hold a charge anymore. We got this Black and Decker that is very sturdy and powerful and is getting great reviews. So far we are very pleased with it – it makes our old hand vac look like a toy in comparison.

In the kitchen:

  • Monday: Corn, black bean and avocado wraps or pitas
  • Tuesday: Spaghetti with Sauce
  • Wednesday: Taco Salad
  • Thursday: Macaroni and Cheese with Veggies
  • Friday: Penne a la Betsy

We also: found a new house for sale last night during a walk in the neighborhood that we both just love. We walked a little further than usual and there it was – beautiful brick detail, a front porch, a great secluded back yard with a sandbox, stone patio and play area, and a simple yet elegant kitchen with newer appliances and a nice overall layout (I got most of that information from their website, not just from the quick glance while walking by). It’s on a quiet cul de sac as opposed to a larger street which we like, in an ideal location. I highly doubt it will still be on sale next year – but it gave us hope that the kind of house we both love is out there in a price that isn’t entirely inconceivable. Maybe it will be there in a year, maybe not, but now we know something like it is out there, you know?

Some other links I think you should click:

One last thing I want to tell you about before I go: the other night Dan gave the baby her first plain old fashioned tub bath (as in, no infant tub or giant inflatable rubber ducky tub like we used with MM for a really long time because I have issues) and she did so well – I was all manic nervous mommy at first but she was totally fine and loved it – and she made a new friend.

rubber ducky you're the one

The Naked Buddha: Commentary and Stuff

It’s not typical of me to read more than one book at a time but with the rate that it’s been taking me to get through one book lately, I’ve decided to make my life harder by trying to read more than one book at a time. I’ve started reading non-fiction during the day when I’m feeling all inquisitive and intelligent and fiction at night when I just want to relax and have a good laugh.

I suppose I could just read the one book all day but so far this is working for me because now I get to read the latest Spellman Files book, The Spellmans Strike Again by Lisa Lutz, a great new book on food and dieting that is so not typical of books on that subject (Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat by Michelle May) and The Naked Buddha by Adrienne Howley all at the same time which is such a fun mixture and I’m actually enjoying all three books equally which is always a nice treat.

Anyway, I expect to have a lot to say about all three books when I eventually review them – but I just picked up The Naked Buddha today and started reading it at the coffee shop while BB and I had a light snack while MM was at the Y – and it just immediately made me sit up straight and take notice. I’ve been interested in Buddhism for a couple years now in so far as, “Buddhism sounds like it must be neat but I don’t really know anything about it.”

If you know me, you likely know that although religion interests me, organized religion tends to get under my skin. I had a good go of it with a Unitarian Universalist Church back in New England but felt a bit lack luster about the local one here and in general decided that I didn’t have the energy at the time to continue going to church every week. I knew that I wasn’t there for a religious reason so much as for intellectual stimulation and I decided to continue my intellectual pursuits in private. I’ve always felt that any idea of religion or spirituality is a personal, private matter when you get down to it, and also that there are better uses of my time. Agree with me or disagree with me as you will, I’m not looking to spark a debate, just laying the ground work for how I came to pick up this book which I can now explain in two parts:

The first part, is that the “minister” of the UU church in New England happened to also be Buddhist. That was the cool thing about that church – the followers came from all walks of life and few of them agreed about religion – some were atheists, others Christians or Jews – and even Buddhists. How do they all manage to get along within one church and why do they go anyway? Well they all agreed that “religions” were all basically the same at the root of it all and that the purpose for a church should be for people to get together and spread the idea of living a decent, ethical life and helping the community and world around them in any way they can. And when I heard that our “minster” was Buddhist I thought – how very cool. If we’d stayed in the area longer, I no doubt would have asked her more about it, but we moved less than a year after finding them.

Then, a month ago or so, I started to finally read Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert – a book which has sat on my bookshelf for a long, long, embarrassingly long time – but I finally read it (and loooooved it to pieces) and there it was again, that Buddhism thing. And again I thought, “I really need to find out what Buddhism is all about.” Because I had this feeling, this hunch, that there was something there for me. So after my husband refused to let me spend money to buy a book about it, my interests tending to lean towards fleeting and my bookshelf tending to lean towards collapsing at any second due to the sheer volume of books I’m asking it to hold; I went to the library last week and picked up two books on the subject – actually one on Buddhism and one just on meditation. The Naked Buddha being the first.

(Man can I ramble on or what? I am really sorry if this is confusing you.)

So – yes – I picked up the book and although I’m only 28 pages into it, I already have stuff I want to mention here, get written down on cyber paper before I forget it. Because Dan isn’t home for me to go OMG to and prattle on, I thought I’d prattle on to you and pretend to be very clever and well written while doing so. And so for anyone still reading, who hasn’t bored of this very, very lengthy introduction or maybe skipped down to get to the good bits because you, too, have a vague interest in Buddhism, let’s begin:

Quotes and Commentary and Stuff on the First 28 pages of The Naked Buddha by Adrienne Howlet:

What I find most interesting about Buddhism is that the Buddha taught for forty years and then invited his followers not to believe a word he had told them until they investigated it for themselves. He did not demand unquestioned obedience and devotion, unlike many who set themselves up as teachers of Buddhism today. He taught alertness, constant investigation and clear-sightedness, among other things. – from the Introduction (page XIII)

She goes on to mention that Buddha never claimed to be a God, a child of God, or even a prophet. He did not set about to create a religion in any sense of the word, but simply to enlighten people on how to best deal with and understand suffering in the world. And I like that he emphasizes that people who listen to what he has to say should then investigate it for themselves and make up their own mind. This was perhaps the first thing I read in this book that made me think, “ah ha.” I firmly believe in thinking for yourself – and I’m sure I’m not alone in that.

Although I can’t say for certain, having not actually been around when he was alive, it seems to me that Buddha never intended his teachings to be religious in the typical sense of the word at all – he seemed to be much more focused on the here and now than the afterlife. Howlet writes on page 16:

He consistently refused to contend with his questioners on any subject of a metaphysical nature. He neither agreed nor disagreed, telling such questioners that imaginative speculation on certain subjects was useless.

She goes on to say on page 18:

… that whatever opinion one might have about the questions asked [about the afterlife], there still remained the very real problems of birth, old age, decay, death, sorrow, pain, grief and distress… To explain these matters, he said, was useful and helpful in avoiding unskillful behavior and gaining nonattachment, tranquility and full realization.

On page 25 she really sums it up best with:

For the Buddha, everything outside the range of experience was speculation. If people believed that countless reincarnations were necessary for enlightenment and spent time in speculation on this, they were wasting time. For those who sought enlightenment in this life, time was more precious.

So, I can only assume that whether the Buddha was at all religious or not, that had little to do with what he was aiming to teach. If Howlet is correct, I’d imagine that the Buddha and I would agree that dwelling on the afterlife seems rather … unimportant … when there is still the here and now to contend with.

And you know I don’t claim to have all the answers, having read my hefty 28 pages or so on Buddhism. I am just giddily quoting to you the stuff I thought was kind of awesome, that I sort of think I might agree with. I can’t help but marvel that twenty five hundred years ago some really smart guy named Siddhartha might have felt what I feel and thought what I think, at least to an extent. And he’s legendary, you know?

Anyway, I know you are probably getting antsy but I do have one more topic I wanted to mention. Howlet also briefly explained the Buddhist views on vegetarianism – a topic which also interests me. We’ve been eating a largely pescetarian diet for awhile now ever since I got a little too upset about the meat industry and how animals are treated in slaughterhouses and so forth. We kept seafood in our diet because it seemed fairly easy to get a hold of wild caught seafood but even now, as easy as it is, I find I miss some meats.

And it isn’t just the eating of the animal that bothers me, although it makes me a bit sad or maybe just compassionate, it’s really the life that animal led up until it got on my plate that bothers me. Howlet writes on page 19 that:

If there is anything close to a commandment, it is this – THINK. Think about what you are doing, why you are doing it and what could be some of the most likely outcomes. In this respect, Buddhists attempt to act skillfully rather than unskillfully to avoid extremes of behavior. They attempt to follow what Buddhists call the middle way.

That bit about the middle way immediately caught my attention because I tend to be a really moderate person – you know those personality quizzes where you rate yourself on a 1 to 10 and find out what political persuasion or religion or romantic type you are? Yeah, I’m almost always FIVES. The middle. Anyway, she continues…

Naturally, you can do only the best you can. Vegetarianism is easy in countries where fruits and vegetables are easily grown. Where extensive raising of vegetables for food is not part of the culture, such as in Tibet or Mongolia, meat is a necessary part  of the diet. In China and Japan, fish and soybean products provide necessary protein. Fowl, eggs and fish do this in other cultures.

…If it is ever necessary to kill to eat, the Buddhist does so with compassion. Thanking the bird or animal sharpens the awareness that this animal is a suffering sentient being, just as you are. Responsibility for your actions always lies with yourself in Buddhism.

This really made me think. She also mentions that when the nuns and monks were begging for food that the Buddha advised them to eat whatever was given – and to never ask that anything be killed for them. This was more about being gracious for what was offered and not being picky. But I like the idea of simply being practical and compassionate. And that nothing has to be extreme or all or nothing. Do what makes sense today is what I take from this and I like that.

We actually talked about the whole meat or no meat thing recently and agreed that we’re planning to continue not buying meat at home – mostly because it’s easier to prep and clean up a vegetarian dish and it’s a little bit cheaper and often times healthier. But if we find ourself with access to farm raised (non corn-fed, etc.) meat or we are at a nice restaurant, we might treat ourselves (or really I might treat my husband who, god bless him, is mostly just doing this for me). This might sound like a cop out to you, but to me, it’s just sensible and knowing that all I’m asking of myself is to be compassionate and aware is enough for me.

I am not an Extreme and the world is not black and white. I am capable of thinking and changing and growing and making my own decisions today and tomorrow, doing what works best for me, my family and the situation. Make of that what you will.

Anyway, I think that’s enough babbling for today. To anyone who read all of this – you’re basically a rock star and deserve an Ultimate Bloggy Buddy Badge of Honor. Unfortunately I’m fresh out of those right now, so I’ll have to get back to you on that. ;o)