The School Supplies Rant

some of MM's school supplies for this fall

Over at Ohdeedoh they are talking about School Supplies today. Namely the useless ones that never get used. Like protracters and eraseable red pens, planners and pencil cases. What items do you remember buying as a kid that you never used? What items are you buying now as a parent that have you scratching your head?

Personally, I think the thing that bothers me the most is the sheer quantity of items that a lot of public schools ask for now. Because you aren’t just buying supplies for your own kid, but for the entire classroom. At MM’s school at least, most of these supplies are going to be massed together and the items that you buy, your child may never use. So there’s no point in buying items you specifically want for your child (like say an eco-friendly brand), because they may end up using the ones another mom bought who had completely different standards in mind.

It also bothers me that parents are required to buy so many basic supplies for the classrooms like tissues and sanitizing wipes and glue sticks, when I’m betting the schools could buy these items in bulk for a much better cost.  I’d honestly rather the school buy all the supplies not specifically purchased for my child in bulk and split the bill up over the families and call it a Supplies Fee (which by the way, they do have a supplies fee, audaciously enough, what for I couldn’t tell you) and be done with it, rather than sending me on a goose chase through Target, Staples and Walmart trying to figure out how large of a large box of crayons I should be getting and where the best price on hand sanitizing wipes is.

Here is MM’s school supply list for the Kindergarten classroom:

  • 2 small bottles of Elmers glue
  • 10 Glue Sticks (Scotch or Elmers) - really? 10 glue sticks? Do they really need 300 glue sticks to get through one school year?
  • 4 boxes of dry erase markers – black - Now I really doubt any of the 5 year old kids are going to be using dry erase markers, this to me is clearly us buying things for the teacher, not the kids – and again for a 30 child classroom, that’s 120 dry erase markers
  • 2 boxes of large Crayola markers
  • 1 pack of plain yellow pencils, sharpened – no Rose Art brand
  • 2 boxes of facial tissue - What size box exactly? Should I buy the smallest boxes I can find? Even though price-wise they are a total rip off.
  • 2 boxes of crackers / healthy snack item, plus 1 box each month (That’s roughly 360 boxes of crackers all told)
  • 1 pair of child size Fiskars scissors
  • 1 box each of ziplock plastic bags (snack size, quart) Again, I say, really. The school won’t buy the poor teachers bags?
  • 2 small bottles of pump-style hand sanitizer (my 2 year daughter opened one bottle within minutes of purchasing them. Thanks BB – anybody know how to close a pump bottle without squirting it everywhere?)
  • 2 canisters of Sanitizing wipes
  • 1 paint smock (adult t-shirt large enough to fit over your child’s clothing – PRINT CHILD’S NAME ON BACK IN LARGE PERMANENT LETTERS)
  • Child size back pack with your child’s name written in permanent ink, that will fit a pocket folder (which coincidentally is not on the list)
  • Tennis shoes for gym
  • Rest mat

Of all of those things, the only things my kid will actually be specifically using are the items bolded. Now, I know that kids are hard on their supplies, especially kindergartners, but I really feel perturbed by the fact that parents are responsible for the classrooms having basically any supplies at all. Doesn’t that seem crazy? Because I’m pretty sure when I was a kid, I was required to bring a backpack, lunch box, a folder and probably some pencils and paper. Then a trapper keeper and an expensive calculator by middle school & high school. Sure parents were buying pencils and crayons and markers, etc – but those were items for their children.

This just seems like some weird economic scheme wherein they know that we can’t exactly say no and leave our kids with no school supplies. Like raising gas prices because they know we’ll pay it – we have to. 10 years ago I could fill my gas tank for $20 and the school supplies my dad bought were for ME (Okay, that was more than 10 years ago, shut up). Today I spend $50 at least to fill my gas tank and I’m paying for the name brand only school supplies for the whole classroom. Because I have to.

I’m sure there is some bigger picture that I can’t see and I’m sure that more of these supplies will get used than I can imagine, but that doesn’t change the fact that there is an easier way to do this. Also, I want to make it clear that I in no way blame the teachers for my gripes and that I in no way claim to be an expert on how many school supplies 30 five year olds can go through in a school year. I know this situation is probably more complicated than my understanding of it, but still, it irks me. Still, I think there must be a better way.

What do you think?

On Reading: Happy Endings & Plot vs Prose

a night with my other love... on 365 Project

Since finally finishing my last book club pick, The Lonely Polygamist by Brady Udall, I knew that before picking up the next heavy tome we’ve selected (Cutting for Stone) that I’d need to do a bit of light reading to clear my head. Under the pretense of calling it a Classic Novel for my self challenge I downloaded The Princess Bride by William Goldman and dived into what I assumed would be a bit of fancy-spoken fluff with a plot I knew well having seen the movie adaptation several times.

And while this book still qualifies for a light read, the unexpected things I discovered about it mixed with an intriguing conversation from the last book club meeting – on why different people like certain books – has had me thinking a great deal about this book and whether I think it’s good or bad – and why other people might think differently. So while all of this is jumbling around in my brain sounding very smart, I thought I’d put it to paper (blog?) in the hopes that they come out clever, too, or at the very least so I can have it said and done and maybe be able to change subjects in my brain instead of having it flit around in there for all eternity. It’s worth a shot, right?

First off, a recap of the conversation we had at book club. Amidst a lot of silly chatter about the rather pervy books we’ve been reading lately and miscellaneous discussion about our personal lives and the ranting from yours truly about all the reasons I loathed The Lonely Polygamist, our book club president made a rather fascinating (to me) comment. To paraphrase her because I have a poor memory, she basically said that she thinks there are two different types of readers – in general. The ones who read for prose first and foremost – i.e. pretty words, clever ways of saying things ; and the ones who read for plot first and foremost – i.e. a good story from beginning middle to end.

Obviously we all hope that a book will come with both, most sadly do not quite hit both targets. That doesn’t always make it a bad book – and if they’ve managed to nail one of them, a lot of people will still like or even love it. Our fearless bookie leader claims that whether a person loves these books comes down to whether they are in it first for the prose or first for the plot. For instance, we would both agree that  she is very much in it for the prose. She commented that she can read a book in which nothing happens at all, so long as they say it prettily.

I, on the other hand, can probably get through a book that is not so polished as long as the story is really good. Hence my adoration for fluffy chick lit and young adult titles. We’ve found the books that she and I both adore – tend to be the books that really have the whole package – beautifully written, fascinating story – example: The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society by Mary Ann Shaffer and Annie Barrows. We both really loved this one and I have to agree: beautifully written [check!] amazing plot [double triple check].

Anyway, Her Awesome Leaderness of The Bookish Variety I think makes a very stellar point and I’ve been musing over it ever since, straight through the first half of The Princess Bride which I’ve found has mixed reviews from the populous at large.

The Princess Bride by William Goldman

The first thing you need to know is that The Princess Bride is a bit of a story within a story within a… Goldman fictionally claims in the beginning that this story is not his own, but the works of a Florinese writer S. Morgenstern, that his father read to him when he was ten and sick with pneumonia. And his father read to him, and his father…. and so on. A family tradition that was read aloud to him and quickly became his favorite book. So when Goldman’s fictional son turned ten, he sought out a copy of the book (with great difficulty as it was now out of print) and presented it to him on his 10th birthday. He wasn’t in town that night and asked his son to give the book a shot and they could talk about it when he came home.

Fictionally, his son it turns out did not like the book at all – which floored Goldman until he reread the book and realized that his father had been very much telling the abridged version, the full text being more of a political and social satire than a good fun adventure story. Not wanting the world to miss out on the “good stuff”, Goldman got permission to write an abridged version which he later also adapted for film.

None of this is true. But man, he duped me. Cause I’m slow or something, I don’t know – but he duped me good. And you know… I kinda commend him for that – he really almost had me going, though I commented to my husband that the whole introduction in which he tells us this is so fantastically written that it almost seemed…. staged. A bit of googling later and I learned the truth, but honestly, well done Goldman! You got me!

Some reviews complained a bit bitterly about Goldman’s inability to just tell the story – that his constant jumping in and explaining stuff was just plain irritating and that the movie is simply better. I kinda get that… Until Goldman comments in the middle of a scene about how annoying he found it when Morgenstern commented in the middle of a scene and I realized, dude this is totally all planned. Genius.

But the thing is – I often complain about writers who do certain things in a story to sort of prove a point or make a statement or accomplish this vague goal – even if it means making the story less enjoyable. I think I said just that kind of cranky thing about The Lonely Polygamist in fact. So what makes The Princess Bride different? It’s not really the prose which is almost too modern even when he tries to claim it’s the original text of an ancient story, this clearly isn’t coming close to seeming that way. But I kind of dig the modern writing style in this case and at the root of it all – is one hell of a story. The story we can all see in The Princess Bride: The Movie and that I know pretty well and have come to love. I can picture Cary Elwes as the Man in Black and it just makes the whole thing soooo good (because I have a major crush). But maybe that does mean that the movie is better? I don’t know. Since I can’t go back in time and unsee the movie, I can’t help but compare the two, but still I say, I like them both. The story is quirky and some might say the prose is just meh, but I dig it…

quote from the book

Around halfway through the book, I read this quote from the narrator(ish), you know Goldman’s fictional version of himself. About his father reading the wedding scene between Buttercup and the Prince and then ten year old Goldman getting all angry and telling his dad that he read it wrong. Simple as that. It was impossible for Buttercup not to marry Westley, that’s just not how stories work. His dad got upset and closed the book and left the room and poor fictional Kid Goldman had to go to sleep thinking that there would possibly be no happy ending. He tossed and turned trying to work out a way for it to be okay – how Buttercup could marry the Prince but still end up with Westley somehow.

Enter the quote I pasted above in which Goldman says that as a kid, happy endings are basically a given. You can punish your characters straight through the book but it’s okay because we know that by the end of the book everything turns right somehow. The guy gets the girl. The hero saves the day. And even though things turn out okay in The Princess Bride, Goldman fictionally says that this scene kind of disenchanted him as a kid – that on some level he realized for the first time that life isn’t fair.

This of course brought me back to my book club conversation where at one point, someone asked if a book had to have a happy ending to make us Plot-readers happy. I said no, of course not, but then struggled to find an example – the only fitting one I could think of being Gone With The Wind. To which some prose-readers snarled back and commented that they hated that book. And I laughed. And laughed… But it’s true, no real happy ending in Gone With The Wind – an awful lot of unhappy throughout in fact. But even just that promise of tomorrow, when all would be well, was apparently enough for me. I knew Scarlett, of all people, would be okay somehow. She’d get her man or get some new plan of happiness and she’d make it work – no matter what. That’s just her way. And I loved the story. Like adored it with a firey passion. So it’s all good.

But in general, call me childish, but YES – I prefer books with a happy ending. And you know what? I won’t appologize for it. Because you know what? Life isn’t fair. People are awkward and clumsy and they say the wrong things and they sometimes fumble things up even when they have the best of intentions. And sometimes a tornado or tsunami or other natural disaster will come in and wipe out entire families who had GOOD lives and important things going on but now it’s gone and it doesn’t matter. And wars happen – and people shoot other people – who had families, children, wives, dreams, hopes, et cetera that now don’t matter any more because their story is over.

But fiction is different. A fictional story can happen any way you want it to. It’s entirely up to the author. The characters can say things in the clever way that we hear them in our head before we open our mouths and stutter out an attempt at cool speech that will in real life sound like, “So um what’s for dinner, ahem?” but in fiction can come out, “My darling, I have had the most tiresome of days and all I want now is to sit down with you, my love, over a warm meal and forget about my troubles for awhile because you make me so happy.”

Or something, I don’t know – a good writer would say it even better than that. Because they can. And at the end of the story – the guy gets the girl! The hero saves the day! Because if we want to see a sad ending, we can turn on the news or talk to our neighbors. Sad endings are for real life. Happy endings are for fiction – where we as writers can control every page. Because, I at least, read to be entertained. To escape the real world and enter into the fantasy world where dreams come true and milkmaids become Queens of Florin but then say, “Screw that, I’m going to hook up with the hot pirate instead because I CAN.” The End.

That’s just how I like it. No apologies.

How about you? Do you read for prose first or plot for sure? I know most of us would try to huff and say, “I like both!” I know, so do I, but I do think there comes a point where one becomes suddenly clearly more important at the end of the day. So which is it for you?