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Food For Thought

I just watched the latest video at momversation entitled “Are your kids bad eaters?” Talk about food for thought! I swear MM has two different eating personalities, or else something has changed so recently that it still hasn’t sunk in for me yet. It seems like just the other day, I commented gloated that MM will “eat anything.” I’m not sure which MM I was talking about because I am pretty sure I can list out for you right here what MM will eat:

  • cheerios (or basic equivalent thereof)
  • macaroni and cheese
  • hot dogs
  • macaroni and cheese WITH hot dogs
  • gold fish, teddy grahams, etc.
  • yogurt, string cheese and almost every other kind of dairy although he will occasionally turn down a glass of milk
  • pasta with meatballs or meat sauce or plain with Parmesan cheese
  • pizza – this is the amazing thing – for the most part, he’ll eat any pizza we make – the only topping I’ve seen him turn down is black olives
  • grilled cheese, peanut butter and jelly or turkey and cheese sandwiches, but whether or not he’ll eat the turkey is questionable

And oh right dessert – or any breakfast food that might as well be dessert like pancakes, waffles or french toast. And you know I’m looking at this list, thinking, “That’s not so bad. I bet there are kids out there who will eat way less than this – did I mention my kid will eat spinach? Oh yes, that’s right. So in some ways, he’s a very good eater with a varied diet and about half the nights in the week he will likely eat dinner. But then there are the foods he won’t eat.

  • Chicken. Of any kind. Well, that’s not true – he’ll eat chicken nuggets sometimes at Wendys – but the night I made him homemade chicken nuggets, which were delicious by the way, he refused to eat them. Or anything else on the plate.
  • Pork, Ham, Hamburgers, Steak, Fish
  • Almost all vegetables – sometimes he seems to like broccoli but not often enough to count on it. He likes corn but not on the cob.
  • Enchiladas or anything else which is assembled in a way that makes it unclear what he’ll find inside.
  • Sometimes he’ll refuse an entire dish because of one or two elements within the meal – like if I make spaghetti and meatballs – that’s okay, but if it’s spaghetti with chicken – that might be vetoed altogether.
  • Potatoes – baked, mashed, diced – almost all kinds, sometimes even french fries (right – I know – I don’t really like french fries either, but he was normal about them at one point, like his father)
  • chili and most soups and stews

So it’s a toss up. His diet is varied enough that I almost feel like I could work with it – but when he decides he doesn’t like something, it’s the way he goes about informing me that drives me up the wall. It’s when he turns down an entire meal without even tasting it that I get testy. I know that growing up I was required to at least try things. I don’t mind if he doesn’t finish a meal, if he at least makes an attempt to try things. So sometimes that’s my only prerequisite – just try it. I’ll choose my battles if you will and demand simply that he: Taste it. How hard is that?

Sometimes we’ve offered dessert as a reward but very rarely, because it seems to me that this is sending the wrong message, but sometimes you are just having that night and you don’t care about the message, you just want peace – you just want a night that works. And what about when you are at a birthday party or family dinner and dessert comes? Do you let them have dessert if they didn’t eat dinner – didn’t even try it? How do you work around the fact that your entire family is dying to watch him eat cake because apparently the art of eating cake as a child is high entertainment or something. Do you cave for just those occasions and then try to pick back up again in the privacy of your own dungeon home?

Sometimes I feel that every night is a battle – ending with us begging and pleading him to eat – and I wonder if we simply pretended not to care, if all this picky eating would go away? But what about when he turns down dinner flat out, refusing to try a bite, and then an hour later of course they are starving. Especially when bedtime comes around – “How can I go to dinner when I’m still. so. hungry?” And your heart breaks a little. And sometimes you let them have a bit of string cheese or some milk, but then other times you are not feeling so gracious, because they are the picky jerks who turned down the meal you slaved over, certain they’d love it, and you say, “Maybe you should have thought of that before you turned down dinner.” Or, “Nobody ever starved between lunch and breakfast,” or some other evil thing.

Sometimes I wonder if I don’t get this right, will I lose for good? Is there a point in this battle where you make it or break it? Have I already lost? Am I asking too much? And it seems pretty obvious to me that all kids at least go through a picky phase, if not a picky lifetime. Does it go away on it’s own or is there a secret mommy weapon that we aren’t given until we get really desperate and start groveling to the fates for pity? Is there a passcode? An initiation? Is this all just a parent club hazing technique? When do I get a beer? Actually, can I have wine – and actually – can I have a rain check?

Are your kids picky eaters? What aspects of their pickiness drive you nuts the most? Do you have any secret tricks to get them to eat? Have you gotten the passcode yet?

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Daybook: June 22nd

Today…

Outside my window: It’s supposedly only 67 degrees but we’ve got a high of 88 with more “possible storms” – it “possibly” rains frequently here but that can mean a bit of drizzling here and there or torrential downpours. I’ve found the online weather websites are largely little help for actually predicting the weather – maybe that’s true everywhere.

I am hearing: Sesame Street on tv and the pitter patter of three year old footsteps bouncing around, room to room, looking for the new big thing to play with for the minute. He’s getting impatient because he knows when the show is over, we’re going out.

I am thinking: That it will be good to finally check out the local library and get my card, but I’m kind of annoyed that, according to their card catalog online, the books I want to read the most right now are all taken with like twice or three times as many holds for the book as copies. Why must I covet popular books?

I am hoping: That I can find a couple cheap pairs of shorts for MM at Target today – it’s just too hot for him to wear the pajamas he’s been wearing, and he’s getting a bit big for them anyway – it’s shorts and a light tee shirt weather by day and night these days. And who told kids they could keep getting bigger?

I am reading: Last night I was talking to Dan about my dilemma with the book the book I’ve been reading, The Omnivore’s Dilemma by Michael Pollan, which was hard for me to explain then but having talked with him at length about it, I think I can quickly summarize. It’s a non-fiction, non-light read but it’s fascinating and I am enjoying reading it – but I’ve been reading it for about three weeks now I think and I’ve barely cracked a dent in it – I am so tired at night and it’s really too heavy a read for me these days so I’m in this weird situation where I am enjoying the book but not enjoying the time reading it, if that makes any sense. And it’s only going to get worse – I’m more and more tired at night and in a month, I’ll have a newborn and newborn hours to contend with – it could take me a year to read this book at that rate.

So it is with heavy heart that I am putting the book aside for now, so that I can read it when I am of sound mind and whatever to really enjoy it. I put it on my desk so that I can read it during the day if I’m feeling inspired but for now I’m going back to hopefully light fiction. Last night I read the first chapter of The Year of Pleasures by Elizabeth Berg which is good, although I don’t think I’d categorize it as light, it is lighter than the non-fiction book I’d been reading. I’m planning to continue hunting down a (free) copy of Dead Until Dark by Charlaine Harris and I have a copy of Garden Spells by Sarah Addison Allen coming, which I won in Serendipity‘s giveaway recently – and I plan to check out a couple books at the library today, depending on their selection.

I am creating: Nothing at the moment – I’m a bit created out after last week.

I am wearing: A maternity tank top with little green and white polka dots (it’s cuter than it sounds) and my maternity jeans which I had the hubby resize for me (don’t mock him, you wish your husband could sew as well as mine can) so that they fit again – how is it possible that I’m getting so huge but my pants were getting too big? I can’t wait to see what size I am after this kid is born.

In the kitchen:

  • Monday: Grilled BBQ Chicken w/ baked potatoes and mixed frozen vegetables
  • Tuesday: Spaghetti & Meatballs
  • Wednesday: Hamburgers w/ choose your own sides
  • Thursday: Grilled Cheese & Beef Vegetable Soup
  • Friday: Bruschetta Chicken Bake

Around the house: We finally hung this fantastic mirror that we got shortly after our marriage with a gift certificate from my grandmother. We’ve never had quite the right place to hang it, but we finally decided on the perfect place for it here and I love it.

Plans for the week: Target and the library today, a doctor’s appointment tomorrow, I need to call the health insurance company to confirm what things will be covered on the big day and I need to do the laundry at some point, too.

One of my favorite things: We had a fantastic Father’s Day yesterday. We went to a small beach in town (very small, like there was maybe 50 feet of beach) which was so peaceful. It was kind of overcast but still nice and warm and the water was fairly warm, too since it’s been so hot every other day. I’ll be posting some pictures on Wednesday from the beach – but look below for a couple pictures of our Father’s Day gifts. I framed a really great picture of Dan and MM and also had MM color a cute little print out. We also printed a similar version to the collage I posted yesterday, as a Father’s Day card. Those three things plus the beach were the basic details of our Father’s Day Surprise – nothing special, but I did want to surprise him as much as possible. I also made him one of my specialty dinners, my Enchilada Bake, which I haven’t made in ages so it was kind of cool and of course delicious.

A picture thought: