Simple Woman’s Daybook: May 4th

Outside My Window: It’s been nice and cool and cloudy. The heat wave seems to be over and I’m content as I can still get by with my summer-ish wardrobe and maybe a light sweater. We’ve had a bit of rain but nothing remarkable.

I am hearing: Curious George on tv – we’re headed to my grandma’s for dinner soon but MM insists he finishes watching his show before his diaper change, after which we will leave.

I am thinking: Too many things at once – my brain is still pretty muddled with all the same things, trying to plan the upcoming weeks but pretty much completely unable to.

I am hoping:
that Dream Company gets back to Dan soon! So far nothing, although we did hear from his old boss that they contacted him for a reference this past Friday, so we know they are still doing something and hopefully we hear soon. Not that I’m getting impatient or anything. 😛

From The Kitchen
Monday: dinner at my grandmas
Tuesday: Spaghetti with mozzarella stuffed meatballs – yum!
Wednesday: Hot Dogs & Mac ‘n’ Cheese
Thursday: Hamburger Night
Friday: Chicken something or other

This menu is staring to look awfully repetitive but the price has been working well for us, so it will do for now. I look forward to being able to expand our menus even just a little bit…

I’m now reading: Lioness Rampant, the last book in the Alanna series by Tamora Pierce. I started reading Influence a couple of nights ago, only to realize it was absolutely nothing like what I thought it would be – you know, a memoir. It’s actually a coffee table book style collection of interviews with 20 famous-ish people who have “influenced” the Olsen twins. I really didn’t care for it at all and had no interest in the 20 people they interviewed so I abandoned it. I hope they do a real memoir someday, although I guess I’d expect that kind of book to come much later in their lives, which is fine.

I am creating: Nothing at the moment – I did take some pictures for my review of the Amazon Kindle 2 and shot the video for this week’s In My Opinion video meme (click the link for this week’s questions if you want to play along), so that’s sort of creative… I guess.

Around the house: We’ve been cleaning up clutter mostly, it’s been nice to see a lot of old junk go but we have a lot more left to do!

One of my favorite things: We’ve been teaching MM to spell a bit. Still very early on in the process but it’s been really cute. We got a book from Frecklebox (to review for Mommas Review) that has his name splashed all over it and we’ve been loving using that to help him learn to spell his name and dude it works and he loves it!

A few plans for the rest of the week: That totally depends on when Dream Company gets back to us and what they say. If it’s a yes, we’ll be calling moving companies and packing, etc. If it’s a no, hubby has a couple companies lined up to apply to via recommendations from some friends. Oh and tv of course, because you know I run my life by the tv schedule.

A Picture Thought: Here’s a cute picture of MM eating dinner with one of his new favorite bedtime / all the time stuffed animals – a little stuffed Westie that follows him everywhere, even to the breakfast table apparently. Picture captured by daddy.

There Really Should Be A Separate Rating System For That

Since becoming a parent a little less than three years ago (and maybe during that pregnancy) I’ve had a problem with movies and tv shows where children or parents die. This can be a problem if you consider that on some level all people are either the child or parent of someone – but I think we can all agree that there is a certain level of obviousness that makes the difference between okay and not okay. I watch medical dramas like Grey’s Anatomy and crime dramas like Fringe and Bones so I’ve had to kind of adapt to some of the lower levels of obviousness and I’ve come a long way but sometimes it’s just not okay.

We rented In Bruges to watch tonight – it’s about some guys who are hiding out in Bruges, Belgium after committing a murder that went wrong – as if a murder could go right. My husband was really enjoying the movie so I humored him despite being a bit bored. I can deal with movies about serial killers – usually you can kind of suspend that belief that nobody actually deserves to be murdered and run with the good guy / bad guy theory. This wasn’t the problem. I was doing fine while the main character murdered a Catholic priest for unknown reasons other than the known fact that the main character is a hit man and this was a job. But then after he’s shot the priest we find out that a stray bullet also hit a small boy, school aged, but very young. In church.

I’m six months pregnant and emotional and already have a problem with aforementioned dying of parents and children so we know this is going to go poorly for me. I had to make Dan turn the movie off – even if the subject wasn’t mentioned further – and maybe especially if it wasn’t – the damage was done. I’ve seen that now. It’s tainted a part of my heart, added another irrational fear to my list of things to worry about despite my lack of ability to control such a situation. That boy did nothing wrong but was in the wrong place at the wrong time – except that wrong place was a location most people could never even dream of fearing. It’s like the worst thing to fear ever basically – because to actually let a fear like that control you would mean being unable to simply function in life.

And I know I’ll be fine – for the most part – by tomorrow the image hopefully won’t be haunting me anymore and by the time I fall asleep tonight the urge to burst into my son’s room and just hold him for dear life will have been resisted – you know that’d make for a bad night, my son hates being woken up! But it’s still there – I honestly wish I’d never ever ever seen that. I can remember a similar moment in the movie Crash, except that it didn’t really happen – and the child was okay and despite my heart stopping for a few minutes, it was okay, because those sweet, kind directors let me get off the hook – and assured me that no, that didn’t actually happen and everyone is fine. Everyone should do that – if only for my sake!

I look at how sheltered our kids are now compared to generations past, just due to the large amount of information mothers have now, how can we let our kids have the freedoms we did or our parents did? How can we let them just walk off into that dangerous world where bullets fly and hit people they weren’t intended for and mean, bad people do mean, bad things? We know they are out there and it’s our job as parents to protect them from those truths. We can’t pretend that it isn’t real and that it’s just a script that can be rewritten. And I accept the fact that bad things happen for no good reason and that I can only protect my children so far – that I cannot protect them from things over which I have no control. I can make peace with that – but when I’m watching a movie or tv show to unwind and relax and let my mind be entertained – I can only deal with so much of that. I am going to need a lot of Teen Disney-esque distractions and magazine flipping to get through those few minutes of In Bruges and be able to sleep tonight.

I know some people like these kinds of plots that make your heart maybe jump a little and have you thinking on a different level, like wow those things happen and isn’t that deep. Me? I worry about those things without the influence of tv and movies. I’ll take stereotypical teen heart throbs falling in love and singing to each other about it while fighting masked bandits who never actually hurt anyone and maybe they become a princess at the end. I’ll take a break from my brain which already fears anything and everything hurting my babies or taking me away from them. I do that on my own – I don’t need a talented, overly imaginative script to add to my list, please and thank you.

Don’t get me wrong – I like smart movies – a lot – I just prefer they avoid that whole area where my uterus starts crying for things that haven’t happened. Stimulate my brain – talk religion, politics, money – any other vice is fair game – just don’t hurt those imaginary moms and dads and kids who can only ever make me think of my own brood – leave them alive please. And their pets – let them live, too. And I know this a long shot and you movie makers not reading this have no control over it, but if my husband could get the job with Dream Company that’d be great, too. Because I just started flipping through the premiere issue of Fresh Home magazine which I’m reviewing for Momma’s Review and it’s awesome and I want a subscription but first we need a home address for it to be delivered to and a job to pay the subscription cost. Feel free to deliver that message to the appropriate gods, mkay?

What about you? Anyone else share my inability to deal with kids dying in movies and on tv? Or is there some other don’t go there topic that you avoid like the plague?

Aloha Friday: Pick A Name, Any Name

It’s time for another Aloha Friday, the day that you take it easy and look forward to the weekend, in Hawaii and blog land anyway. As you should know by now, over at An Island Life, Kailani decided that on Fridays she would take it easy on posting and ask a simple question for you to answer. Nothing that requires a lengthy response.

If you’d like to participate, just post your own question on your blog and leave your link at An Island Life’s blog. Don’t forget to visit the other participants! It’s a great way to make new bloggy friends!

So the news is out. BB Kumquat is a girl (95% sure). She’s so girly in fact that I’m toying with the idea of dropping the Kumquat and referring to her as simply BB (Baby Blueberry) which I think works rather nicely since I’ve been referring to my son as MM (My Monkey) for a long time now (in blogging world). But that’s not really what this is about (apart from her being a girl). I want to talk names. Real ones. The one I won’t tell you, just like I haven’t announced my son’s name (and won’t until he’s old enough for me to ask his permission). I’m 95% sure I’ve already chosen BB’s name, but you know I’ve got time to kill and I thought it would be fun to do a little survey…

If you could name my daughter, what name would you choose? As in, what is your favorite girls name, a name you’ve always wanted to use, a name you’ve recently discovered and are coveting, that kind of thing, to put it simply:

“What girl’s name do you like best?”

First only is fine, first and middle is even more fun.

Playing Favorites: Top 10 Moments in Mommablogsalot History

Auds @ Barking Mad is giving away a $250 Target Gift Card and all you have to do to be eligible to win is post 5-10 of your favorite posts from your blog. How could I not? Especially since I seem to love my blog like crazy. I found about 20-25 posts that I LOVE (am I a narcissist or what?). But I managed to narrow it down to 10 after long moments of soul searching and these are the results of that search, my 10 favorite posts, ranging from serious to seriously silly, in my opinion, they are the cream of my crop. Or something.

Favorite Book Reviews:

Favorite John Mayer-Related Ramblings:

Favorite Attempts at Proving that I think about important things, too: One Religious / One Political:

Favorite Parenting Post:

Favorite Walking Down Memory Lane Post:

Favorite Sad, Mourning Post That Turned into a Grey’s Anatomy Advertisement:

Now I am sure you have written WAY better posts than that! So if you like Target and you’re not a total tool, you’d better follow suit, and write up an entry of your own to enter in Auds’ Favorite Posts Contest

Top 5 Tuesday: Things To Teach Our Children

This week Dana @ Supernanny Where Are You? wants to know:

What are 5 things that you hope you can pass down (or at least teach) your children. Beliefs, ethics, morals…. stuff like that.

I think I could list way more than five things, but here are the first ones that came to mind…

  1. A love of knowledge and reading – my husband and I both love to read and learn new things and I’ll be a little bit sad if our children don’t share that passion. I actually hope they will read MORE than my husband and I do, which in my case at least, would certainly be saying something. And that they know MORE than my husband does, which would be amazing and wonderful.
  2. Being open to change and new information – I want them to be able to learn new things, even if it means negating something they’d previously believed to be true. They should have their convictions, yes, but not to the point where they refuse to grow and mature and advance with the rest of the world.
  3. That they are worthy of true and lasting love – I want them to know that they are special and wonderful and that the right person will love them unconditionally, even when they are acting like a fart – just like their parents. I will always love my son, even when he’s being a jerk, and the right girl for him will, too. Not that they will allow him to be a jerk, but they won’t stop loving him for it. And that that kind of love is worth waiting for.
  4. Healthier eating habits – I didn’t take that concept seriously growing up and I regret it now that I have terrible eating habits to battle. I want my children to have a chance to try lots of healthy foods and to be aware of how food can affect you – and know good portion control, will power, etc. I also want them to be more active than I am currently.
  5. I want my children to feel they can come to me with anything and know I will support them always. I want to have an honest open relationship with them and for them to feel like they can trust in me and know I will always be there for them. I want them to have that kind of relationship with their own children, too.

What five things would you like to pass on to your children?

Monday Morning: Monday Afternoon Style

Well my friends, it’s time once again for Monday Morning with Karen @ Write From Karen. This week’s hodge podge of questions are about happiness, breakfast foods, politics and growing pains. If you decide to play along on your own blog, be sure to comment and let me know and also link up at the main post here.

The September 29th Questions are:

1. How do you define happiness? I guess to me, happiness in the long term means being surrounded by people I love who also love me, succeeding at the things which are important to me and knowing I’m living the best life I can. Short term? Happiness can be anything – a pound lost, a good book gained, your child’s laughter – knowing my son is happy makes me very happy indeed.

2. What did you have for breakfast? (If not this morning, tell us what you had the last time you had breakfast). This morning I had a glass of strawberry carnation instant breakfast and half a mug of coffee (and a glass of water with my gargantuan multivitamin).

3. On a scale of one to ten, how sick are you of the presidential campaign? Do you talk about politics on your blog? What about in real life? Why or why not? I’d say I’m about 75% sick of this election. I have talked about it a bit on my blog, but not too much as it’s not a topic I’m normally giddy to read about myself, but being an election year, it is important and thus more interesting to me than usual. In real life, I do talk about politics, especially in an effort to further my own knowledge on subjects, but I try very hard not to argue about politics, because that can be draining and pointless.

4. What about your life today would surprise your teen-aged self? I think she’d be surprised to know that I’m not working, but rather a stay at home mom, and probably also a little surprised to learn that, in fact, her entire family WAS right and that because she kept eating “like that” and exercising “not at all” she would gain the weight eventually and have a very hard time putting the weight off (as evident by the weight still being here at present).