At my core, I’m still that fourteen year old girl pouring through the latest Teen Magazine, looking for a fun quiz that will tell me who I am – who I should love – what career I should pursue – what dog matches my personality – what my car says about me. Basically, I love talking about myself and I love other people talking about me.

But I do think knowing yourself is important and as I get older, that urge takes a more sophisticated form. I know me but what I can I do to be the best me? How can I make the most of my personality and habits and strengths and weaknesses? I’ve also found that my personality has evolved over the years. Sometimes I think that every time I take the Meyers Briggs Test I get a different answer. Maybe this is normal. Maybe it’s a sign that these tests are utter nonsense – maybe it’s the fact that I have a pretty moderate personality – I can see both sides in a story and tend to agree with everyone in some way.

Most recently, I got the result of ISFJ: The Defender. According to 16personalities.com:

The ISFJ personality type is quite unique, as many of their qualities defy the definition of their individual traits. Though possessing the Feeling (F) trait, ISFJs have excellent analytical abilities; though Introverted (I), they have well-developed people skills and robust social relationships; and though they are a Judging (J) type, ISFJs are often receptive to change and new ideas. As with so many things, people with the ISFJ personality type are more than the sum of their parts, and it is the way they use these strengths that defines who they are.

I guess given that, it sort of makes sense that I’ve gotten varied results over the years. The Defender is know for being practical, loyal, organized, dependable, sensitive, patient and kind. I’m not saying I’m all those things all the time, but I think most people would agree that they are the traits I pride myself most on.

“ISFJ personalities (especially Turbulent ones) are often meticulous to the point of perfectionism, and though they procrastinate, they can always be relied on to get the job done on time. ISFJs take their responsibilities personally, consistently going above and beyond, doing everything they can to exceed expectations and delight others, at work and at home.”

We are the ones begrudgingly following the rules even when it seems like no one else does. We’ll stand in line while others cut ahead. We’re the mom who makes sure everyone else is fed before eating ourselves and maybe does the dishes real quick, too, before sitting down. We’re:

I guess it’s not surprising then that when I took a quiz to find out my Ennegram type, I got a Type 2: The Helper. The basic desire of a Two is to feel loved, their greatest fear is being unwanted or unworthy of being loved. That really says it all, to be honest.

“Twos are empathetic, sincere, and warm-hearted. They are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing, but can also be sentimental, flattering, and people-pleasing. They are well-meaning and driven to be close to others, but can slip into doing things for others in order to be needed. They typically have problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs. At their Best: unselfish and altruistic, they have unconditional love for others.”

Before I go, I really am still a fourteen year old. Other quiz results I’ve gotten recently:

According to Buzzfeed, my goal in life is : Marry A Hot British Actor

Tom Hiddleston. Daniel Radcliffe. Eddie Redmayne. It doesn’t really matter which, does it? They’re all so dreamy. *sighs*

And I’m totally more Emma Watson than Kristen Stewart (thank god).

You’re totally charming, classy, and sophisticated, but that doesn’t mean you don’t know how to have fun. You live to make the people around you happy, but sometimes you just need to let loose and enjoy yourself! You’re extremely kind, thoughtful, and willing to stand up for what you believe in — an all-around awesome lady!

Do you like personality quizzes?

What is your personality type?